- There couldn’t be another woman involved.
- It would have to be two guys that I found attractive and liked but probably couldn’t have real feelings for.
- They would also have to people I trusted to be discreet and considerate.
- And it couldn’t be with my boyfriend and another guy because he would either be jealous/possessive which would make HIM unhappy or he would NOT be, which would make ME unhappy.
This was my answer to the question: “would you ever have a threesome?” As far as I’m concerned, this question is purely hypothetical because all of these criteria being in place is akin to lightning not just striking twice, but striking the same person in the same place at the same time. Just so unlikely…
This guy wasn’t shy about asking for what he wanted. And I can appreciate a frank conversation even if the answer to the proposed topic is “no, no, hell no.” For that reason, I don’t think I’m a difficult person to ask these or any kinds of questions.
If you have a burning question, how do you ask it? Let’s say your SO is a person who only wants to have sex in missionary position after dark and with all lights out? Or what if they aren’t particularly prudish, but you have a request that might not go over well. How does one go about asking for a golden shower?
Grown Folks, how do you ask for what you want in the bedroom? Have you ever wanted something that you felt like you probably couldn’t get? Or have you received a particularly crazy request?
~Jai de Vivre
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bookerdubois
In terms of a sex question, I just ask it. Of course this is easy to say because I don’t have difficult or off the wall questions/requests anyway…
I haven’t had any guys that had unusual requests, though the topic of threesomes has always popped up when hanging with guy friends. I keep saying that I have no desire/curiousity to experience it, and they keep trying to build arguments for why I should try it. I would have too many other requirements in addition to the ones listed above.
I agree that a “regular” question would not be hard to ask. My requests are usually along the lines of frequency, intensity and location.
I think the threesome question is pretty common. But you hear so many people say they would not or have not, it makes me wonder who’s actually having them. Or are people having them left and right and just don’t want to discuss them?
I think, as youmissnme said, you just have to ask the question. I think we all have said we ouldnt do something that later we’ve done. Life is filled with suprises and changes, so live a while. Forever and never can both be a long time! Just because it hasn’t happen is not a real indication that it won’t.
Ontez, I would be tickled to learn what you said you would NOT do that you ended up taking back…
So what would be ur requirements @ youmissme
Crazy stuff I’ve said no to:
1. “picking out” girls I like at a club with my boyfriend (10 months later the fool regrets the question).
2. Having a baby so HE could trap ME.
3. Dude offered me bigger “tickets”.
4. A guy asked me to go au natural “down there”. Umm, no thanks.
Not so crazy stuff I’ve been denied:
1. Oral (deal breaker, and strangely no guy will
ever turn receipt of this gift down).
2. Grooming himself. I’m not trying to floss or get a hairball in my pipes.
3. Sex outside. One guy informed me that “normal people” don’t have sex a) outside the bedroom or b) when it isn’t night time. Let me know what kind of bore you land!!
4. Making a home movie.
5. Anal. Lol. Though I’ve since changed my mind on endeavoring this experience.
3.
@ jai. I said I would never perform oral. That was a LONG time ago. Any other things we will discuss at a later date.
. @ stephanie. WOW……… You are a monster! I thought I was an open book, but yeah you might just have me outdone. So you asked a guy for anal, and he said no?
@ stephanie. You asked him to PITCH correct?!
@Steph, LOL at all the things you’ve had vetoed! I tave said no myself to the very pedestrian home video/photo shoot requests. I’m pretty much against “documentation.”
LOL, ontez! I’m sure we’re all relieved that you have reconsidered the down south trek…
@jai. ” I’m a growna#* man……..” @ GFT I know I’m not the only one…………….
I HOPE you’re not the only one! If you were, I would predict an upswing in violent crimes and suicides…
@Cogcol: I’m pretty sure I’d have to be off my rocker drunk. I would be on the pill and some std checks would be needed. I have been asked by 2 different couples to participate…by the women in the relationship…and said no thanks without hesitation. I also don’t want to be bothered with two men. That’s a lot of work involved on my part.
Correction @ontez, I guess I should say if there were more people who hadn’t reconsidered, THEN the upswing would occur!
HAHAHA, youmissme! When I read your comment about two guys being a lot of work (and I concur) I immediately heard that old like showtune-y song in my head, “nice work if you can get it…”.
@ youmissme. Smart woman……… Two guys wouldn’t be a threesome any way. That would be a train! In a threesome all parties have to interact.
I concur
@ontez: And thus it would have to be two women involved so it isn’t a train???
No that would be fun an good exercise for all
hmmm, Jai de Vivre, you present interesting points about bringing inner desires to light and even more important, letting a SO know of those desires…but i think threesomes are too cliche, at least for me. i want to know if my lady would be willing to…
would you please paint your entire body green and glue some antenna’s to your head so i can pretend i’m having sex with an alien????
would you please put on fishnets, clear platforms, and a bustier and stand on the corner and let me “pick you up for an even exchange?”
etc.. etc..
just the tip of the iceberg with me…yeah, she’s really gotta be open.
bookerdubois
BD! Welcome back, love! Really open? Did you ever get that swing installed?
I’m down for the hooker/John scenario, but alien sex?! Is that really sexy or do you just want to see how much you can get away with?
Just mannish, Cogcol…